Learning how to come out of depression if you live alone can be facilitated most by reminding yourself that like everything else, suffering and pain come and go. Suffering from depression reminds us that things can go wrong irrespective of what we think we might be doing right. It comes upon us without apparent reason and out of the blue. At times like this, it feels like nothing will help. And if you happen to be alone, you might begin to think that you will never be well again.
A little bit of reflection will reveal that we do almost every memorable thing in our lives alone. We were born alone, we learnt to talk alone, on our first day in school we were alone, when somebody we love passes away, we suffer alone, and most importantly, we die alone. Also, when you think about it, you realize that everything that arose in your life, ceased to be after some time. And in this constant arising and ceasing, we are alone. When we get injured, our wounds heal. We fall ill, but we recover. There are times when we have nothing, but that changes. It helps to remember these things when you feel that there is no one to help.
Perhaps the most important thing in learning how to come out of depression if you live alone is to see that you are completely alone with your body. Nobody can share your body or nourish it when things go wrong except you alone. In that manner, each one of us is alone. When we need to move in a certain direction, there might be help and guidance, even companionship. But we have to walk alone. The path might be laid out, others might be there, but ‘we’ have to walk. If we don’t, we get nowhere.
Perhaps it might help to keep the above metaphor in mind when we are in pain alone. Negotiating depression is the path and we have to walk, alone. No amount of companionship or support will help us if we don’t make the journey. And in the journeying, each one of us is alone. There are no exceptions.
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